Frequently Asked Questions
We know getting sober can be hard and understanding your support options can be confusing. We’ve put together a list of Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) that we commonly hear from our clients and we hope the answers can be helpful to you.
Recovery homes vs sober living environments…what’s the difference?
The main difference between a recovery home and a sober living environment is the level of care and support. A sober living environment is a home that is occupied by other alcoholics and addicts in recovery, and who are there as support and companionship, just as you are to them. Sober living environments have general guidelines, but usually don’t provide all-inclusive services beyond providing a safe and sober living situation.
A recovery home is more structured and offers a higher level of care than a sober living environment. These extra services may include simple, yet strict, guidelines that promote harmonious communal living, mental health support, life skills coaching, sober companions and transport, and crisis intervention if necessary. The main goal of a recovery home is to take the worries of daily minutia off the shoulders of clients, so that they can focus on healing and recovery. However, clients are expected to follow guidelines and put in the necessary work to make long-term recovery possible.
I relapsed, now what?
If you have found yourself in a relapse, the most important thing to do is refrain from harsh self-judgment or self-pity, and don’t isolate. A relapse does not have to mean that, with proper support, you can’t pick yourself back up and continue where you left off in the recovery process. Hopefully, you began building a social network in sobriety, and now is the time to utilize it. Don’t think you have to do this alone. Call a sober friend or a loved one that you trust and find a safe way to get to a meeting. Don’t wallow in it. See it as an opportunity for growth and take action.
How to prevent a relapse?
There are several ways to establish strength and knowledge in sobriety that will protect you from relapse, and even help you if relapse happens.
It is vitally important to have sober people in your life that care for you, know your story, and understand your struggles and joys. You can build a strong sober network through 12-step meetings and step work with a sponsor.
When you feel negative emotions such as fear, self-doubt, or self-pity creeping in, the best way to deal with them is to address them with someone who is strong in their recovery and can guide you to take the next right step. The same goes for the times when you are feeling well in sobriety. Share those moments, too, because the same people who help you through hardships, will also join you in celebrating your progress.
Develop healthy habits such as self-care, prayer and meditation, and healing hobbies that create balance in your life and make the chance of being overstressed to the point of relapse less likely. Learn to avoid being hard on yourself when you make mistakes and grow from them instead. Find time every day to be in silence and clear your head of distractions and do something regularly that causes you to feel productive or creative.
This idea is hard to swallow for many recovering alcoholics and addicts but remember that your higher power is a force of your own understanding, and you just have to be willing to grow a relationship with something that is greater than yourself, even if it is simply the fellowship of a 12-step group.
How to choose a good sober living facility?
Sober living homes vary in, not only their services, but in their culture. Not just any sober home will meet your individual needs for support and the establishment of healthy goals for your recovery. Thoroughly consider what you believe to be specific services that you need and what type of environment you think will foster your self-confidence and increase your chances for recovery. Then, propose these guidelines to different sober living facilities, so that you can talk with professionals to determine if their services are right for you. Be confident in your visions of what will work but be open to the myriad of services that are available from different sober living situations.
I think my loved one is an alcoholic/drug addict. What can I do?
The number one thing to remember when you believe that a loved one may be an alcoholic or drug addict is that you can’t magically save them. Unless your loved one is in immediate need of medical attention, it is not advised to approach them without seeking support first. You can seek support and guidance from addiction professionals by calling a treatment center, or attending Al Anon meetings, so that people with experience can help you determine the severity of your loved one’s condition and what options you may have to help your loved one help themself. It is not wise to confront your loved one without the proper tools, especially if they are under the influence. You don’t have to enable their behavior, but discretion is advised when considering taking action to help an alcoholic or addict. Camelback Recovery is available to speak with concerned loved ones at any time.